Happy Curious Friday!
Thank you for coming back. How are you? I want to celebrate two small moments with you first.
Small moment 1
THANK YOU for cheering me on Jane. Truth be told, I had languishing moments last week and really needed that.
Small moment 2
My first-ever Amazon book review came in on Wednesday! THANK YOU Jonny!
Here are 1 idea from me, 1 learning from others, and 1 question for you to ponder this week.
1 Idea from Me
Forgiveness.
I once broke off a friendship because my close friend and I were both unpopular at school. I wanted a new identify and didn't want to be associated with another unpopular person. This is one of the things which I regretted and bugged me over the years. It was regret which drove me to change the relationship with my younger self. I realised my inexperienced, naive and selfish self made a mistake. And what do kids do when they make mistake? You owe up to it, apologise and make amends.
I started messaging my school mate after I moved back to Hong Kong in 2011. I checked up on him every now and then. We only met up once in the last 12 years. This is what he said to me after I apologised to him last year.
"Forget about the past. Let's make it right for the next generation."
The seed was planted 12 years ago and it finally grew into a tree. Recently, we met up for lunch again. We are both working father with two children now.
What you have is now. We all made mistakes in the past. You can't change the past but you can change your relationship with it. Negative emotions can be a great learning cue, motivator for change.
1 Learning from Others
Unforgiveness
Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping your enemy will die.
From Nelson Mandela
1 question for you to ponder
Are you holding grudges against someone?
Give permission for others to make mistakes. People are not perfect, and neither are you. Setting unrealistic expectation on others set them up for failure; it also sets you up for disappointment.
From Chapter: Moving Forward with Our Wounds of Unstuck
See you next week.
Aaron Pang